For me personally the “Grumpy Cat” meme stopped being cute a long time ago but that hasn’t stopped people from throwing an truck load of money at it. Grumpy Cat (whose real name is Tardar Sauce) is getting its own movie and…
"College as explained to me in high school" vs. "College as experienced firsthand"
In high school they told us:There will be no grades in a class except the midterm and the final, so you have to study hard because failing one test means you fail the class.
Once I was in college a professor said:Hey, you guys are working really hard on your third paper, so I'm just going to cancel the final and give everyone a hundred on it.
In high school they told us:In college, class always begins exactly at the scheduled start time. If your class is at 9 AM and you get there at 9:01, the doors will be locked and you'll be out of luck, especially if it's the day of the midterm or final, because then you get a zero.
Once I was in college a professor said:Does anyone mind if I start class at 3:35 instead of 3:30? These elevators are really slow and I want to have time for a cigarette before I teach for 90 minutes.
In high school they told us:Every class you miss drops you a full letter grade in college courses.
Once I was in college almost every professor said:You can miss three classes without a penalty, and a few more if you have a Doctor's note. Sorry to be a hardass, but you automatically fail if you miss more than ten days of class.
In high school they told us:If you do have papers, your professors just lecture and put the assignments on the syllabus. You're completely responsible for remembering the deadlines, they won't remind you. All your professors will do is lecture and the rest is up to you.
Once I was in college a professor said:Okay, so your next paper is in two weeks! I'll keep reminding you in the interim, but I just want to make sure you have enough time to do it! Let's run through the structure I want to see real quick, and if you have any questions, feel free to email me or come to my office hours!
In high school they told us:You have to use MLA formatting and if you make any mistakes in your citations, it'll be considered plagiarism. You'll be expelled and probably sued.
Once I was in college almost every professor said:Please do not use MLA, it is awful, we use either APA or Chicago here because we are not 14 years old.
In high school they told me:There is no excuse for an absence. NONE.
In college I called a professor and said:I'm really, really, really sorry but it's -18 before windchill and I have to walk two miles to get to class.
The professor said:You stay inside and stay safe. Here's what we're reading today. I'll quiz you next week and if you can get a 90% I'll mark you present. I know you live off-campus, do you have food?
In high school they told me:Your advisor is just for academia, not personal problems.
In college my advisor called me:Are you okay? I haven't seen you in class in two weeks and I know you have depression. I can drop off your work if you'd like. Please call me and tell me how you're doing even if you can't get to class.
In high school they told me:Don't argue. You think this is bad, wait til college.
In college all but one of my professors said:You wanna argue, do it in a civil manner. We didn't get here today without 5000 years of healthy debate.
In high school they told me:You need to exceed all of your peers to get your teacher's attention and MAYBE they'll give you a good reference with a network.
Most of my college teachers:Hey, you're fucking funny, I like you, you say intelligent things sometimes, and some dumb shit but you're here to learn and if you need a recommendation, come to me and I'll help out.
High School:Forced the quiet kids to talk
College:You're quiet... give me a good amount of thought in your papers and tests and your participation points will be counted.
High School:Don't ask questions, just listen and do the readings and you'll be fine!
College:ASK QUESTIONS YOU QUIET CRICKETS!!! Seriously, how in the hell am I supposed to know you understand me? I know you all don't get this shit, it's hard so ask questions!
“Community is doing life with other people. It’s showing up for people at 2 AM. It’s random diner trips and deep conversations. Community is people who cheer for you and get on planes to see you and show up at the train station to grab you when you need a ride. They are people you can call and cry to. Community is made up of individuals who get you and ask the tough questions.”—
So my trip to New England was good, bad and pretty ugly, but also beautiful. The wedding was beautiful and perfect in all regards. From the weather to the people, the venue. All perfect. But as with every trip home Mom and I had a massive blow up.
Mom and I had a fight over communication and really it’s not really clear why we were fighting. Because whatever starts it, we always end up screaming about the same thing. How we treat each other. And what I’ve found is that I am actually quite selfish. It is hard for me to talk about other people and their feelings. I am always looking for ways to keep myself comfortable. I never ask Mom or anyone really how they are feeling. I’m never actually listening to people. And what I feel right now is God is telling me in order to accept His call to leadership I need to step down from my mountain. I need to not think so highly of myself. I need to listen more and talk less.
I found myself on the 12 hour train ride back home reliving all my ugly moments over the last 4 years. All the times I chose myself over others. Which is almost all the time. So with that I am feeling drawn to reading Acts and seeing how the Holy Spirit works. Because this self-centeredness is something at my core, something I can’t change in myself. This has to be the work of the Holy Spirit.
My theme for the remainder of my AmeriCorps term is “be obedient.” First to God, then to the other people in my life. I have to give up control at RT. I need to be there to support Sarah as she takes the reigns. Not control her.
I need to not be afraid to ask people how they are feeling and with that I need to be willing to really listen to their response. I need to care. Love is a choice and for me for some reason it’s a choice I need to physically make for now as God transforms my heart.
I am coming down off my mountain top where I seem to be standing and looking down on people. I am not hot shit, I thought I was. But God always brings me back down. I am sorry I got ahead of Him. Because He is doing the work. I realize I would have nothing without Him. I am sorry I keep hurting people I love.
This will not break me and put me back into my crazy. Instead I will accept responsibility that this is something I struggle with. Be open to change.
"I am the voice of the one crying out in the wilderness, ‘Make straight the way of the Lord,’ as the prophet Isaiah said." (John 1:23)
“I’m thinking that it might actually be possible for things to work out sometimes. Definitely not everything and maybe not the way you imagined. But sometimes, when you least expected it, life surprises you.”— Susane Colasanti (via psych-facts)
“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.”—Hugh Laurie (via larmoyante)
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:14-18
“We are faithful to this church, not because it is the church of our Fathers, but because it is the church of the Gospel; not because it is the church of Luther, but because it is the church of Jesus Christ. If it became something else, if its teaching were something else than a correct exposition of the plain Word of God, it would no longer be our church. It is not the Lutheran liturgy that matters. The church can get along without it if it must. It is not the Symbolic Books that count. If it should ever be demonstrated that their exposition of the Gospel is false, that they contain essential errors, we would be the first ones to cast them into the fire, for our norma normans, the standard by which we judge doctrines, is the Bible alone. Nor is it the Evangelical Lutheran Church, as a separate church in Christendom, that matters. The moment it becomes anything else than the stand on which is put the lamp which alone is a light upon our path it becomes a sect and must disappear. We would not be Lutherans if we did not believe this!”—Herman Sasse (via tipofthescepter)